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June 16, 2002

Life Change Goals

Oooh! Two entries in a day!

Well, since I have a few moments and I'm thinking about it, I thought I'd write down the different aspects of my life I hope to work on once I move. I've always been a proponant of constant self improvement. One should not try and attain some specific level of wellness, so much as be constantly aware and working on things that can be improved. I'm no exception :) Certainly the more hectic life is, the more difficult it is to work on the small things (or big things). But with my move to Mammoth, I'm hoping to have a second chance and start working again on the many things I hope to improve about myself.

1. Constructive Use of Free Time
This is something everyone talks about, but I mean to do :) I need to read more. I have lots of things to read, I need to turn OFF the TV (or better yet, not turn it on), and pick up the books I'm working on. I need to write more (like this). I find a lot of joy in writing. In reality, I find much more joy in reading and writing than I do TV. So as to not be misunderstood, I want to reitterate my position on television. TV is not bad. Its just a medium. It CAN do bad things. From a personal level, what gets bad is ones relationship with the TV. Its easy to just turn it on and not do anything else. So not watching as much TV is another one of my goals.

2. Climbing
I want to start a more focused training program. Up to this point, I've been just doing whatever and its worked very well. But now my improvement is slowing, but I'm good enough that focused training is more fun than painful. I also want to meet trad climbers and focus more on trad and mountaineering.

3. Alone time
I want to spend more time alone. I don't want to spend a LOT of time alone, just more. I like to spend time to just think. Solo hikes and backpacking trips are definitly the way to go.

4. Marriage
This list is not in order, cuz this item should be on top. Sarah and I have had this bizarre relationship for the last 5 years. We've never stopped loving each other, if anything our love has grown, but we just havn't spent much time together in a while. My friend Dennis told me that every few years you have to assume you don't know your spouse and start over. Because as time passes, you develop preconditioned responses to the other person. Over time as your spouse changes, these responses become dated and can actually hurt the relationship. So you need to forget everything you THINK you know about the other person and learn about them all over again. This can be difficult when you think you KNOW that person. Of course, since sarah and I haven't spent much time together, I can't say for sure that I DO know her well. I'm sure she doesn't know me well. I'm confident we'll both like what we find, but its only through effort that we'll find out. This means spending more 'quality' time together. Luckily we're both interested in spending our time in overlapping ways.

5. Friends
I've had unbalanced relationships with friends for a great many reasons. Too busy, too far, blah blah, etc. etc... I could go on about this, but you get it.

6. Health
I need to start eating healthier and treating my body better. More cardio, less junk food.

7. Cleanliness
Sarah and I have been slobs for years. Its time to change that. We just didn't have time to work on cleaning AND spend time together, so we rightly chose to use our presious few moments together. All that should change now that we have more time.

Looking back at my short list. I could spend pages on each of the items above, and there are many more things I left off, or didn't think about in the last 10 minutes. But at least its a start. :)

Posted by wonko at June 16, 2002 03:35 PM

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